Long Live Queen
Victoria: The Dress Reform of the Seventh-day Adventist Reform Movement (SDARM)
SUMMARY
The Reformists of the SDARM generally BELIEVE and
TEACH:
- A range of bizarre views
regarding dress, including: forbid naked limbs; forbid women wearing pants;
prohibit women removing any body hair (such as shaving legs); forbid all
types of cosmetics; forbid all types of jewelry.
- The SDARM consider their
peculiar ‘dress reform’ standards a ‘salvation issue’ amounting to a test of
fellowship.
The Reformists are WRONG because:
- The Bible recognises in
Deut 22:5 that men and women should wear different clothing. However, what constitutes ‘men’s’ and
‘women’s’ clothing differs according to culture, time and location. For example, the dress of the ancient Jews
and early Christians, consisting of ezor, kethōneth, simlāh and na'alayim, would
probably be considered a woman’s dress in most Western countries today.
- The Bible promotes simplicity
and humility of dress, and is concerned with overt consumerism. However, the Bible equally does not promote
fanaticism in dress, which can equally become a fixation or idol.
- The Bible in passages such
as 2 Sam 13:9 and Mat 24:17-18 does not forbid men to have naked sleeves.
- The Bible nowhere forbids
women from wearing pants.
- The Bible in passages such
as Num 8:7 make clear women are permitted to remove body hair, and in fact,
it is good hygiene recognised in the OT.
- The Bible in passages such
as Ex 30:22-25; 1 Kings 10:2-10; 2 Chron 16:14; Ruth 3:3; 2 Sam 12:20;
Esth 2:12; Is 39:1,2; and Luke 7:34-46, 23:56 recognises some cosmetics are
fine and good to use.
- The Bible in passages such
as Gen 41:42; Jer 22:24; Esth 3:10,12; Hagg 2:23; Luke 15:22 and Jam 2:2
recognises some jewelry is fine and good to wear.
- The SDARM standards of
dress are not biblical but rather their own peculiar ‘fashion’ derived from
19th Century America.
- The SDARM fashion of
dress, such as a suit and tie for men, does not come from the Bible. Rather, it comes from military uniforms and
luxurious courtly clothing.
- The SDARM do not follow
the Bible strictly regarding dress anyway.
For example, they wear shoes in their Churches, contrary to Ex 3:5.
- Ellen White made clear
that her comments needed to be understood in her cultural context. She made
clear, ‘No
one precise style has been given me as the exact rule to guide all in their
dress.’
- Ellen White made clear
that dress reform should not be a test of fellowship.
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The Official SDARM Position on Dress Reform
The official SDARM position is outlined in its fundamental statement Health and Dress Reform:
‘Health and Dress Reform
Because a Christian's body is the temple of the
Holy Spirit, the believer will want to safeguard
their health by following natural law, discarding health-destroying
articles of food and unnatural habits of life, and being moderate in the use of those things which are good. 1
Corinthians 3:16, 17; Philippians 4:5. Habits of dress are an index of the character. Christian modesty and
self-respect require us to abstain
from the extravagant fashions of the world.
References: 1 Peter 3:1-5; Isaiah 3:16-24; 1 Corinthians 11:15; 1 Timothy
2:9.’
Healthful Dress
"In order to secure the most healthful clothing, the needs of every
part of the body must be carefully studied. The character of the climate, the surroundings, the condition of health,
the age, and the occupation must all be considered. Every article of
dress should fit easily, obstructing neither the circulation of the blood nor a
free, full, natural respiration. Everything worn should be so loose that when
the arms are raised the clothing will be correspondingly lifted."—Ministry
of Healing, p. 293.
"The suffering caused among women by unhealthful
dress cannot be estimated. Many have become life-long invalids through their
compliance with the demands of fashion. Health
and life have been sacrificed to the insatiable goddess. Many seem to
think that they have a right to treat their bodies as they please; but they
forget that their bodies are not their own. The Creator who formed them has
claims upon them that they cannot lightly throw off. Every needless
transgression of the laws of our being is virtually a transgression of the law
of God, and is sin in the sight of Heaven. The Creator knew how to form the
human body. He did not need to consult the mantua-makers in regard to their
ideas of beauty. God, who created everything that is lovely and glorious in
nature, understood how to make the human form beautiful and healthy. The modern
improvements upon his plan are insulting to the Creator. They deform that which
he made perfect."—Christian Temperance and Bible Hygiene, pp. 87-88.’ (emphasis added)
The above statement contains eternal
principles most Adventists (and probably most Christians) would heartedly agree
with. However, for anyone who has
actually visited a SDARM Church, he or she will soon notice that Reformists
take the above principles to quite an extreme.
As noted by Vance
Ferrel in The Truth About the Adventist Reform Church at page 16:
‘The Reform Church is more pharisaical than the Adventist Church. They
stress works—dress, length of hair, diet—and they do it to the extreme.’
So the question is – does the
SDARM follow its own principles with respect to dress reform? As will be explored by this article, there
are indications that the Reformists twist these biblical principles, resulting
in a perversion that does much to undo the primary benefits that dress reform
was meant to offer.
What is Dress Reform Exactly?
Much is made of ‘dress reform’,
especially with the SDARM – but what is it exactly? Ellen White was principally concerned with combating
extremes of dress in her own day:
‘We do not think it in accordance with our faith to
dress in the American costume, to wear hoops, or to go to an extreme in wearing
long dresses which sweep the sidewalks and streets. If women would wear their
dresses so as to clear the filth of the streets an inch or two, their dresses
would be modest, and they could be kept clean much more easily, and would wear
longer. Such a dress would be in accordance with our faith.’ {1T 424.1}
Moreover, the above quote
illustrates Sister White was principally concerned with two primary issues:
Unhealthy feminine fashion
The first major concern
involved women wearing unhealthy clothing in the name of feminine fashion. In her day that included corsets, makeup made
of dangerous chemicals and skirts that were so long they dragged in the mud and
fifth (remembering the streets were full of horse dung, as this was before
cars). This is much in accordance with
the scriptural command in 1 Tim 2:9:
‘I also want the women to dress modestly,
with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles
or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.’
The ‘American Costume’
The second major concern
involved women attempting to dress healthily, but in doing so discarded feminine
attire. In her day this involved the
adoption of the ‘American Costume’, which consisted of:
‘a vest, pants, and a dress
resembling a coat and reaching about halfway from the hip to the knee. This
dress I have opposed.’—Testimonies, vol. 1, p. 465.
This is much in accordance
with the scriptural command in Deut 22:5 to wear gender-distinctive clothing:
‘A woman must not wear men's clothing, nor
a man wear women's clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does
this.’
Thus, Sister White’s dress
reforms were aimed at introducing a commonsense approach to clothing, seeking
to combat both extremes in female dress.
The SDARM ‘Fashion’ on Dress
Within the SDARM context, the
‘fashion’ of dress very much depends upon the whims of the local Reformist
leader. As observed by Helmut
Kramer in SDA Reform Movement at page
19:
‘The predominant doctrine taught to the people related to dress. The people
adopted the standards held by the local leader. The members were much more
concerned with externals than with the condition of the heart and a loving
spirit toward their fellowman.’
That all said, there are a
number of basic elements of SDARM dress reform, especially for women.
Naked limbs are forbidden
As explained in the article by
“Clothing in Bible Times” in the ‘independent historic’ Reformist publication Sabbath Sermons:
‘Naked limbs are an invention of Satan
to offend God who is very particular about what his human creation should
wear.’
Although most dress reform
issues relate to women, the Reformist include the issue of naked limbs to
include a prohibition on men wearing shorts, as made clear in its official
statement on Christian Temperance:
‘Although in time past fashion was
mostly a problem with women, unfortunately as we approach the end, Satan is
even destroying the experience of some men on this point. Such designs as tight
revealing clothing, slits, shorts,
and see-through fabrics (exposing nakedness), unhealthful footwear, jewelry and
following modern trends for the sake of fashion is detrimental to the
Christian's experience and is prohibited in the word of God.’ (emphasis added)
A woman should never wear pants
As explained in the article
“Clothing in Bible Times” in the ‘independent historic’ Reformist publication Sabbath Sermons:
‘Pants on their own for women in
history has never been the ordained attire for women.’
And as further explained by
Linda Driver in “10 Reasons Why Satan Wants You to Wear Pants”, also from Sabbath Sermons:
‘Satan
wants you to wear pants because….he wants you to help promote his
ungodly feminist movement. He designed this movement to ensnare rebellious
women who are opposing their God-ordained role, and fighting against God’s
plan.’ (emphasis
added)
A women should have uncut long hair
As explained by Reformist Peter
Lausevi in the article “Ribbon of Blue”:
‘When a woman has short hair, or when a
man has long hair, God calls it an abomination. Because we are Gods servants,
we must call it what God calls it. When Jesus comes, he will have shoulder
length hair. This means that a
woman’s hair must be longer than shoulder length.’ (emphasis added)
Whilst the Reformist Peter
Lausevi prescribes the arbitrary length of a woman’s hair to be at shoulder
level, other Reformists suggest hair must actually be uncut on a woman. The issue of long hair is explored in further
detail in a separate article “Reformist Rapunzel” on Sevy Taliban.
A woman should not remove bodily hair
As explained by John Thiel in
the article “The Garment Spotted By the Flesh” in the ‘independent historic’
Reformist publication Sabbath Sermons:
‘Let us spell out very carefully the
spirit of God in this world and his application to the senses. We are
understand what it means to come out and touch not the unclean things. What are
worldlings preoccupied with in regards their body? They go to the boutique,
they get their nails done, beautiful themselves, wax their legs, what for? Because women think that hairs are ugly
on the legs. That is devilish, that is worldly and they don’t even know
it.’ (emphasis
added)
Cosmetics of any form are forbidden
As explained
in the SDARM official statement “Christian Temperance”:
‘Since God has the health of the entire
human being in view, all articles of dress that have a definite adverse effect
on our health are clearly prohibited in the word of God. For example: anything
that restricts free-breathing, that causes curvature of the spine or any
deformity of the body, and unhealthful
chemicals placed on the body such as those used for dying the hair and cosmetics. Exodus 15:26’ (emphasis added)
Jewelry is forbidden
‘Although in time past fashion was
mostly a problem with women, unfortunately as we approach the end, Satan is
even destroying the experience of some men on this point. Such designs as tight
revealing clothing, slits, shorts, and see-through fabrics (exposing
nakedness), unhealthful footwear, jewelry
and following modern trends for the sake of fashion is detrimental to
the Christian's experience and is prohibited in the word of God.’ (emphasis added)
Dress reform should be a test of membership
Finally and most importantly,
it is not merely the SDARM conservative stance on dress that is the issue. Rather, it is the SDARM approach to
disciplining those who do not entirely agree with their strict practices. As argued by Reformist Peter Lausevi in the
article “Ribbon of Blue”, citing a passage from SOP:
‘Should Dress
Reform Be A Test?
“I have been shown that
our church rules are very deficient. All exhibitions of pride in dress, which
is forbidden in the word of God, should be sufficient reason for church
discipline. If there is a continuance, in face of warnings and appeals and
entreaties, to still follow the perverse will, it may be regarded as proof that
the heart is in no way assimilated to Christ. Self, and only self, is the
object of adoration, and one such professed Christian will lead many away from
God.” {4T 647.2}
If they continue in those practices [of not conforming to
Reformist standards on dress], they should not continue in the church.’
Mr Lausevi goes even further,
suggesting:
‘Those who practice abomination [in dress] will not go
to heaven.’
Problems with the SDARM Position on Dress
There is nothing inherently
wrong with the SDARM’s conservative approach to dress. Rather, as will be explored further, the
principal concern is their fanaticism over the issue, and insistence that one
adopt what effectively amounts to 19th Century Western dress without
regard to cultural circumstance and individual liberty.
The SDARM Reformists often fail to consider
cultural context
In Ellen White’s own day,
there were some who were erroneously teaching that a particular pattern she
referred to was to be the new exact and universal pattern – without regard to
changing cultural context. However,
Sister White made clear:
‘Some have supposed that the very pattern
given was the pattern that all were to adopt. This is not so. But something as
simple as this would be the best we could adopt under the circumstances. No one precise style has been given me
as the exact rule to guide all in their dress…. The Lord has not
indicated that it is the duty of our sisters to go back to the reform dress.
Simple dresses should be worn. Try your talent, my sisters, in this essential
reform.’—Letter
19, 1897. (emphasis added)
Many Reformists fall into
essentially the same trap. They act as
if all good Christians should be bound to a universal pattern of clothing out
of 19th Century Victorian America.
This is precisely what Sister White warned against. There is nothing in the Bible that requires
women wear dresses or men wear suit-and-ties.
If Mrs White were alive today, no doubt she would recommend we consider
her applicable and commonsense principles of dress reform, but adapted to
today’s cultural norms, rather than expect us to live according to a cultural
time warp of dress from over a 100 years ago.
The SDARM do not follow ‘biblical’ dress
At this stage it is helpful to
consider what biblical dress actually entails.
In should come as no surprise to most, although people may forget, that
biblical men did not wear Western suit-and-ties. Instead, Israelite men
typically wore the following:
- Ezor: being a loin cloth, equivalent to modern underpants.
- Kethōneth: being an undergarment, corresponding to a modern long shirt, reaching down to either the knees or ankles, and which was often sleeveless.
- Simlāh: being the outer garment, or cloak or shawl, which was often removed for a man needed more freedom to move, such as performing manual labour.
- Me'ı̄l: being an outer garment like the simlāh, but was more expensive and used by the priestly elite or other men of rank.
- Keffiyeh: being a head covering roughly equivalent to head coverings worn by many men in the Middle East (probably best known for being worn by Yasser Arafat). Turbans, equivalent to those worn in India, may also have been common, especially amongst richer classes.
- Na'alayim: being sandals, usually made of leather.
For Israelite women, they too
wore an ezor, kethōneth, simlāh and na'alayim. However,
as made clear by the Jewish Encyclopedia in the article “Costume in Bible Times”, given the biblical injunction in Deut 22:5 that men and women
wear distinct clothing, some of the differences included longer garments with
sleeves:
‘The dress of women corresponded in the main to that of the men. They also
wore the ketonet and simlah. According to Deut. xxii. 5, however, there must
have been some difference. The garments of the women were probably longer
(compare Nahum iii. 5; Jer. xiii. 22, 26; Isa. xlvii. 2), provided with sleeves
(II Sam. xiii. 19), and wider than those of the men, and therefore better
adapted to conceal the figure (compare "Zeit. Deutsch. Paläst. Ver."
iv. 60). The dress of noblewomen was distinguished for its luxury and ornaments
(compare Isa. iii. 16 et seq.;
Ezek. xvi. 10 et seq.), and was
even scented with perfumes (Ps. xlv. 8; Cant. iv. 11; compare especially the
catalogue in Isa. iii. 16et seq.).
The luxury in dress displayed by women in the East at the present day suggests
the probability of similarly luxurious habits on the part of their sisters of
former times. Niebuhr saw women appear in eight or ten different dresses during
one evening.’
Thus, one can see the SDARM do
not follow ‘biblical’ dress. Instead,
they adopt a Western pattern of clothing out of 19th Century
Victorian America. Whilst there is
nothing in itself wrong with such attire, if it is a personal choice, there are
issues when Reformist leaders teach that dress as being ordained from heaven,
when it clearly is not. If Reformists wish to dress in accordance with the
Bible, they would wear clothing somewhat similar to those found in many Middle
Eastern countries today.
The SDARM do not follow biblical injunctions
about wearing shoes in a holy place
Whilst one is on the subject
of biblical clothing, the SDARM does in fact dispense with clear biblical
injunctions of dress when it suits them.
For example, Reformists typically wear shoes in Church, again in
accordance with 19th Century Western dress standards. However, such behavior is arguably against
clear biblical injunction, where God clearly told Moses in Ex 3:5:
‘"Do not come any closer," God
said. "Take off your sandals, for the place where you are standing is holy
ground."’
‘There is evidence that shoes were of somewhat recent introduction; hence
in solemn moments they were discarded, as in the theophany of Ex. iii. 5, while
priests in general performed their offices without shoes. Similarly, in
mourning, the bereaved removed their shoes (II Sam. xv. 30; Ezek. xxiv. 17, 23;
Isa. xx. 2); this custom has continued to the present day.’
For these reasons, many
persons in other religious faiths, including Muslims and Karaite Jews, take off
their shoes when inside a holy place. Similarly
for modern Jews:
‘In modern times it is customary to remove, or go without, leather shoes
on the Day of Atonement, and to wear slippers instead; the custom is mentioned
in Yoma (viii. 1).’
So on what basis do Reformists
so strictly enforce man-made and culturally relative rules, such as the wearing
of a suit-and-tie in Church, or the denial of women wearing pants, but clearly
flout God-given instructions forbidding the wearing of shoes on holy
ground? It is not so much the SDARM
practice as their hypocrisy in picking and choosing what to fanatically
enforce.
The SDARM men adopt ‘militaristic’ and
‘high-fashion’ clothing
In fact, not only do
Reformists wrongly suggest 19th Century Western dress is the mandate
of heaven, one could well argue that such Western dress is in itself contrary
to moral and ethical teachings of the Bible.
Firstly, such clothing is obviously Western, and much derived from a
time when White Europeans killed, enslaved and colonized most of the
globe. Such Western clothing was often
associated with Christian missionary efforts, where missionary wrongly and
naively associated Christianity with Western culture, forgetting Christianity’s
roots actually lie with the Middle East.
Thus, in many traditional cultures today, one can find Christians
wearing suits-and-ties to Church, even in tropical climates where such clothing
is neither healthy nor culturally and historically relevant.
Second, much of Western
clothing that the Reformists promote, especially the suit-and-tie worn by men,
owes itself to a combination of military origin or high-fashion. For example, consider the following:
- Pants: first invented by the horse-riding Iranian peoples of antiquity, where having material wrapped around one’s legs had obvious advantages when traveling and fighting from horseback; however, whilst trousers were not worn by most ancient Israelites (see Ex 20:26, and were scorned by the Romans and Greeks as clothes for barbarians), the High Priest may have worn long legging undergarments (Ex 28:42).
- Boots or shoes: from probably around 1000 BC, as military clothing, given everyday wear consisted of sandals.
- Suit jacket: from the French word ‘suite’ (as in a luxurious hotel room), which ultimately derives from the luxurious dress of the 17th century royal courts, attaining mass popularity during the British Regency period in imitation of the splendor of King Louis XIV court in Versailles.
- Tie: from the cravat, worn by 17th Century Croatian mercenary soldiers, also later adopted as a luxurious item by the French, and then in England as an item of high fashion of the royal courts.
Thus, it is arguable that when
Reformists insist that their men adopt a suit-and-tie as the norm for attending
Church, they are in effect asking men to wear clothing whose origins come from
a combination of military uniform and high-fashion.
Naked limbs are not necessarily evil
Contrary to SDARM teachings,
naked limbs, especially on men, are not necessarily evil. As explained above,
the Hebrew kethōneth, being
the undergarment, was often sleeveless.
Whilst one’s naked limbs were then covered by the simlāh, or cloak
or shawl, the simlāh restricted movement, so it had to be taken off when
working. As made clear in the Jewish
Encyclopedia in its article about “Coat”, describing the evolution of the
wearing of the kethōneth:
‘The shirt was made at first without sleeves, and also failed to cover the
left shoulder (see Müller, l.c.
pp. 296 et seq.). The working classes continued to wear the
"primitive loin-cloth" (Müller, ib. p. 297), or the
sleeveless coat, as this allowed full freedom of movement for both arms and
legs. When the shirt was long, a belt or girdle was worn over it,
partly for the purpose of holding it together, but mainly to enable the wearer
to tuck in the laps when running, walking, or working.’ (emphasis added)
Rather, as also made clear by the Jewish Encyclopedia in the
article “Costume in Bible Times”, it
appears only women’s clothing always had sleeves, which seems to be one of the
distinguishing features between male and female clothing in ancient Israel:
‘The garments of the women were probably longer (compare
Nahum iii. 5; Jer. xiii. 22, 26; Isa. xlvii. 2), provided with sleeves (II Sam. xiii. 19), and wider than
those of the men, and therefore better adapted to conceal the figure (compare
"Zeit. Deutsch. Paläst. Ver." iv. 60).’ (emphasis added)
Jesus Himself notes this in
Matt 24:17-18, observing a man working in the field would have left his cloak
back at the house:
‘Let no one on the
housetop go down to take anything out of the house. Let no one in the field go
back to get their cloak.’
Thus, it is simply wrong to say that the Bible teaches that naked limbs
are evil, given the opposite is actually true. This is especially the case for
men, who needed clothes that allowed freedom of movement to perform manual
labour.
Pants on women are not necessarily evil
Pants are of major concern for most Reformists, as they
are seen as part of the ‘American costume’ warned about by Ellen White:
‘In wide contrast with this modest dress is the
so-called American costume, resembling very nearly the dress worn by men. It consists of a vest, pants, and a dress resembling a coat
and reaching about halfway from the hip to the knee. This dress I have opposed, from what has
been shown me as in harmony with the word of God; while the other I have
recommended as modest, comfortable, convenient, and healthful.’ {1T 465.1}
However, the Reformists adopt
Sister White’s statement in a literalist way she probably never intended.
First, the statement by Ellen
White does not suggest pants in all situations amount to male dress. Rather, she was clearly addressing cultural
norms, which existed in her own time and place of 19th Century
America. Within her cultural context, a woman wearing pants was clearly an act
of a woman wearing a man’s clothes.
However, no doubt in her time and society, if a man wore biblical
clothing akin to a modern Arab man’s gown, such a man would have no doubt been
accused of wearing a dress.
Second, one could actually
make the case that all pants, on men and women are evil. Nowhere does the Bible suggest men should
wear pants. At most, the high priest
seems to have worn leggings, but only as undergarments, which were still
covered by a long robe. As outlined
above, pants were typically seen as the clothing of barbarians and marauding
horse soldiers.
Finally, presuming there needs
to be a distinction in dress, one might assume that female modesty is more
important than men’s. For example, in
the Bible it was women’s clothing that had sleeves, whilst men would go
sleeveless at times in order to better perform manual labour in the fields. Thus, it seems highly illogical that men
should completely cover their undergarments with clothe, but women wear
clothing that allows for the possibility of revealing a woman’s undergarments
(and the lustful mental images that come with that). On this basis, there is a strong case for
suggesting men should wear robes (like they do in many Middle Eastern countries,
or kilts in Scotland, or Togas in ancient Greece) and women wear pants.
A women’s hair shorter than shoulder length is
not evil
As explained by Reformist
Peter Lausevi in the article “Ribbon of Blue”:
‘When a woman has short hair, or when a
man has long hair, God calls it an abomination. Because we are Gods servants,
we must call it what God calls it. When Jesus comes, he will have shoulder
length hair. This means that a
woman’s hair must be longer than shoulder length.’ (emphasis added)
However, one might ask the
obvious question – how does Mr Lausevi know Jesus had shoulder-length
hair? Perhaps Mr Lausevi has seen one
too many man-made pictures of Jesus? In
fact, if Jesus had shoulder-length hair, wouldn’t that suggest he had quite
feminine-looking hair?
If Mr Lausevi is suggesting
Jesus was bound by the oath of the Nazarite (like Samson and John the Baptist),
then Jesus’ hair would have been longer than shoulder-length, as the Nazarite
oath described in Num
6:2-5 demands uncut hair, which is
then totally shaved off. In any event,
Jesus was unlikely to have taken the Nazarite vow, as he would be prohibited
under the Law of Moses in Num 6:3 from drinking wine or grape juice, something
Jesus clearly did per Matt 11:19; 26:29; Luke 7:34; 22:16,17 and John 2:1-3.
Removing female bodily hair is not necessarily evil
There is nothing inherently
evil in removing body hair. In fact,
removing bodily hair is prescribed as an act of cleansing and purification,
according to Jewish laws of hygiene, as made clear in Num 8:7:
‘Thus you shall do to them to cleanse them: Sprinkle
water of purification on them, and let
them shave all their body, and let them wash their clothes, and so make themselves clean.’ (emphasis added)
Not all cosmetics are necessarily evil
The Bible is clear in
condemning the use of cosmetics, as explained in 1 Tim 2:9-10, Jer 4:30 and 1
Pet 3:3-4. Much of the condemnation
stems from the fact that in Bible times (and in many respects like today),
makeup, especially when used excessively, was usually a sign of prostitution,
as explained in 2 Kings 9:30 and Ez 23:40.
However, the use of various oils,
moisturizers and perfumes, which maintain natural health and beauty, are not so
condemned. Perhaps the best-known
example is Mary’s washing of Jesus feet with exotic and expensive perfumed oil,
as recounted in John 12:3:
‘Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of
spikenard, anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped His feet with her hair. And
the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil.’
Other biblical references to
the use of perfumed oils include Ex 30:22-25; 1 Kings 10:2-10; 2 Chron 16:14;
Ruth 3:3; 2 Sam 12:20; Esth 2:12; Is 39:1,2; and Luke 7:34-46, 23:56. The best advice probably comes from the
example of Esther, who refused the excessive cosmetics of many other girls in
the harem, but did allow for the regime as advised by the King’s Eunuch, as
observed in Esth 2:12,13,15:
‘Each young woman’s turn came to go in to King
Ahasuerus after she had completed twelve months’ preparation, according to the
regulations for the women, for thus were the days of their preparation
apportioned: six months with oil of myrrh, and six months with perfumes and
preparations for beautifying women. Thus
prepared, each young woman went
to the king, and she was given whatever she desired to take with her from the
women’s quarters to the king’s palace… Now when the turn came for Esther the
daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had taken her as his daughter,
to go in to the king, she requested nothing but what Hegai the king’s eunuch,
the custodian of the women, advised. And Esther obtained favor in the sight of
all who saw her.’
Not all jewelry is necessarily evil
It is certainly true that
jewelry should be avoided. Paul makes
clear in 1 Tim 2:9:
‘I also want the women to
dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with
elaborate hairstyles or gold or
pearls or expensive clothes.’ (emphasis added)
Similarly, Peter makes clear
in 1 Pet 3:3:
‘Your beauty should not
come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine
clothes.’ (emphasis added)
However, it is not true to say
all jewelry is necessarily evil or unbiblical.
In relation to rings in particular, there are several passages in the
Bible, both in the OT and NT, where rings wore worn by men of God. In particular, within a biblical and
ancient-world view, a ring was a sign or authority. Examples include Gen 41:42; Jer 22:24; Esth
3:10,12; Hagg 2:23; Luke 15:22 and Jam 2:2.
Other jewelry is not in itself
evil either. For example, in searching
for a new bride, Abraham’s servant did not just bring jewelry – he bought nose
rings, as well as some bracelets! As
explained in Gen 24:22:
‘When the camels had finished drinking, the man took
out a gold nose ring weighing a beka and two
gold bracelets weighing ten shekels.’
(emphasis added)
Ellen White herself, in her
typical sensitive and pragmatic style, acknowledged the importance of cultural
context when it comes to the issue of wedding rings:
‘Americans
can make their position understood by plainly stating that the custom
is not regarded as obligatory in our country… In countries where the custom is
imperative, we have no burden to
condemn those who have their marriage ring; let them wear it if they
can do so conscientiously; but let not our missionaries feel that the wearing
of the ring will increase their influence one jot or tittle’ – Testimonies
to Ministers, pp.180-181. (emphasis added)
The primary thing that Sister White acknowledged is there is no biblical
injunction to wear wedding rings, and they could be a great waste of
money. However, we should equally be
careful of imposing our own Western and American values on other cultures,
where norms are different.
The SDARM clothing is just ‘fashion’ of its own
sort
For the above reasons, one can
see the inconsistency and hypocrisy of the SDARM approach. Far from adopting biblical dress, the
Reformists adopt a Western cultural pattern of 19th Century
Victorian America. In this way, the SDARM standards of dress are just as much a
‘fashion’, which Reformists must adhere to with the sort of peer pressure that
would put the high-fashionisters of Milan, Rome or Paris to shame.
SDARM dress reform, especially concerning hair, can
itself be unhealthy
A key, if not the key purpose of
dress reform is the promotion of health and hygiene. However, as explained by Vance Ferrel in The Adventist Reform Church at page 9,
Reformist women must have excessively long hair, which results in the following
health problems for the sake of SDARM ‘fashion’:
‘The Reform women told my wife
that they had regular headaches on the back of their heads. These occipital
pains were caused by the large buns they had to wear. The Reform women do not
dare cut their hair, lest they shame their family and be declared to be in
apostasy.
They also told my wife that
they could not get their work done with hair that hangs down to their waist, so
they keep it rolled up into a knot on the back of their head. The result is the
appearance of very short hair—and those headaches. They also said that the
overly long hair, if not kept rolled up, tends to fall out.’
With further
irony, these heavy buns appear to be contrary to principles of good hair and
head health counselled by Mrs White Ellen White. Perhaps with prophetic insight, she did warn
that such ‘unnatural positions’ of the hair would result in hair falling out
and pressure being put on the brain:
‘Fashion
loads the heads of women with artificial braids and pads, which do not add to
their beauty, but give an unnatural shape to the head. The hair is strained and
forced into unnatural positions, and it is not possible for the heads of these
fashionable ladies to be comfortable. The artificial hair and pads covering the
base of the brain, heat and excite the spinal nerves centering in the brain.
The head should ever be kept cool. The heat caused by these artificials induces
the blood to the brain. The action of the blood upon the lower or animal organs
of the brain, causes unnatural activity, tends to recklessness in morals, and
the mind and heart is in danger of being corrupted. As the animal organs are
excited and strengthened, the moral are enfeebled. The moral and intellectual
powers of the mind become servants to the animal.’
(HR October 1, 1871, par. 9)
The Reformist aversion to
cosmetics or hair removal is also likely to have a negative impact on the use
of such products in a commonsense way, which the Bible itself promotes for good
hygiene.
SDARM ‘fashion’ is now so outdated it is now a
distraction
The excuse which Reformists
give as to why they do not dress in accordance with biblical clothing is that
SOP counseled against standing out too much, in a way that would be a
distraction:
‘No, we should not be odd or singular in our dress
for the sake of differing from the world, lest they despise us for so doing.’ {1T 424.2}
As explained by John Thiel in
“Dress Reform and the Sanctuary Part 2” in ‘independent historic’ Reformist
publication Sabbath Sermons:
‘We are to dress according to the age
in which we live. We are not to be regarded as odd or different if we dress
within the principles that we have been learning. We can dress within the
framework of the age in which we live.’
However, SDARM ‘fashion’ is
now so far out of date, especially amongst women, that it arguably is
now a distraction. There is no logical reason why dress standards of 19th
Century America should be adopted over modern standards, or non-Western
standards, or biblical standards of two thousand years ago. The SDARM fashion, now one hundred years out
of date, is now so odd or singular that for the sake of differing from the
world, the world arguably does despise Reformists, acting as an overwhelming
distraction from the Gospel message, including the Sabbath truth.
Ellen White made clear that dress reform should
not be a test question
Many
conservative members of the mainstream SDA Church adhere to the same beliefs
and practices of the SDARM when it comes to dress reform. However, what really distinguishes the
mainstream SDA conservatives from the SDARM Reformists is that only the latter
go so far as to make dress reform a test of membership. In this sense, it is not the Reformists’ dress
that is the issue, but their attitude to it.
Ellen White
did counsel disciplining Adventists who seemed worldly and continually acted
contrary to clear biblical principles of modesty and simplicity of dress. However, making dress reform a test of
membership, as the SDARM do, is clearly contrary to Ellen White’s own counsel:
‘Some were greatly troubled because I did not make the dress a test question and still others because I advised those who had unbelieving
husbands or children not to adopt the
reform dress, as it might lead to unhappiness that would counteract all
the good to be derived from its use.’ (Testimonies,
vol. 4, p. 637)
Conclusion: SDARM ‘fashion’ is often enforced to a level of fanaticism
In conclusion, the major issue here is not what
Reformists choose to wear – it is the fanaticism they adopt in relation to this
issue. Ultimately, Ellen White got so
concerned with this type of fanaticism in relation to dress reform that she in
effect abandoned it altogether:
‘The question may be asked, ‘Why has this dress been laid aside? and for what reason has dress
reform ceased to be advocated?’ The reasons for this change I will here
briefly state. While many of our sisters accepted this reform from principle,
others opposed the simple, healthful style of dress which it advocated. It
required much labor to introduce this reform among our people…
Nor was this all. Some who adopted the reform were not
content to show by example the advantages of the dress, giving, when asked,
their reasons for adopting it, and letting the matter rest there. They sought to control others'
conscience by their own. If they
wore it, others must put it on. They
forgot that none were to be compelled to wear the reform dress…’
Much unhappy feeling was created by those who were
constantly urging the reform dress upon their sisters. With extremists, this reform seemed to constitute the sum and
substance of their religion. It was the theme of conversation and the
burden of their hearts; and their minds were thus diverted from God and the
truth. They failed to cherish the spirit of Christ, and manifested a great lack
of true courtesy. Instead of prizing the dress for its real advantages, they
seemed to be proud of its singularity’ — Testimonies., p. 637.
However, the final word of advice for our SDARM
friends is best left to our Lord Jesus Christ himself in Matt 23:23:
‘Woe
to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of
your spices--mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important
matters of the law--justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced
the latter, without neglecting the former.’
If only they would
take head of our Lord’s advice about priorities in life:
‘But
seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things
shall be added unto you.’
Through their fanaticism, the
SDARM arguably undo much of the benefit that dress reform was meant to offer. In
this way, dress reform is an excellent example of how the SDARM turn a
non-essential issue into an essential issue, thereby destroying the blessing by
turning legalistic requirements into a burden.
I love your blog. I attended John Thiels group and made the same arguments as you have against their unbiblical flawed logic, especially in regard to dress.
ReplyDeleteI left and am worshiping with a few IMS people, and there's no comparison, theres no fanaticism there. None of these dress things are an issue. Thats the only gripe I have.
We even say the same things as you in regard to these loonies, Have a look. http://georead.wordpress.com/2013/01/04/criticism-of-john-thiels-sermon-understanding-fanaticism/
I hear what you are saying. As made clear in the intro page:
Delete"As will be discussed below, the SDARM does not represent one particular organization or church, but is an umbrella term, representing a range of different ultra-conservative groups, some large, some one-congregation churches, often hostile to each other and the mainstream SDA Church, but who all share a wide range of very conservative Adventist beliefs and practices. The 'M' in SDARM does after all stand for 'movement', not church.
Not every group will agree with the label 'SDARM', and some may wish to deny that label to others, whilst some may argue they have divergent beliefs from the SDARM. However, for the purpose of this website, the overwhelming similarities between these groups outweigh their differences, and the term SDARM offers a convenient label to describe groups with shared beliefs and practices. That said, readers should be aware that there may be small differences from place-to-place, and group-to-group."
I certainly acknowledge there certainly is the possibility that some 'Reformist' groups don't share these particular views.
Yeah, thats OK, It's only a small gripe. On the whole your blog is great, and we really enjoy it. Keep up the good work. And come visit us someday at the IMS! You are most welcome.
DeleteOk thanks. I've taken your comments on board and inserted a general disclaimer to make it more obvious.
DeleteIndependent loonie John Thiel explains that the 'Loud Cry' is wearing clothes, eating foods and walking down the road with a black man.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sQ7tZeNYp1c
Re men wearing sleeveless shirts, from an article by ‘Asta Astra’, who is a follower of ‘independent Reformists’ of John Thiel and the Historic Adventist Sabbath Society (‘HASS’).
ReplyDeletetp://sermonsandstudies.wordpress.com/2013/11/21/hairy-legs-and-the-babylonish-garment/
Joshua 7:20 says Achan sinned by the following:
‘when I saw among the spoil a beautiful mantle from Shinar…’
Shinar is considered by most scholars to be in Babylon. The exact location is in some doubt.
However, you then say:
‘This was a Babylonian camp. Way back then what the Babylonians wore were knee length clothing with no sleeves and because of that, because he coveted the knee length no sleeve reality, Israel lost the battles… He liked the knee length no sleeve garment.’
Where does the Bible say that? Where is the ‘Thus saith the Lord’ re that?
As I explore in my article “SDARM and Dress Reform”, the Jewish kethoneth (shirt) was also sleeveless. It was the simlah (cloak or shawl) that had sleeves. As made clear in the Jewish Encyclopedia under the article for “coat”:
‘The shirt was made at first without sleeves, and also failed to cover the left shoulder (see Müller, l.c.pp. 296 et seq.). The working classes continued to wear the "primitive loin-cloth" (Müller, ib. p. 297), or thesleeveless coat, as this allowed full freedom of movement for both arms and legs. When the shirt was long, a belt or girdle was worn over it, partly for the purpose of holding it together, but mainly to enable the wearer to tuck in the laps when running, walking, or working.’
Jesus Himself notes this in Matt 24:17-18, observing a man working in the field would have left his cloak back at the house:
‘Let no one on the housetop go down to take anything out of the house. Let no one in the field go back to get their cloak.’
Thus, it is simply wrong to say that the Bible teaches that naked limbs are evil, given the opposite is actually true. This is especially the case for men, who needed clothes that allowed freedom of movement to perform manual labour.
As I read Joshua 7:20, there is nothing abominable in a sleeveless coat, which Achan also took. This is not a polemic against Babylonian fashion, as you claim it to be. The sin was that this coat belonged to the Canaanites, and thus was destined to destruction per Josh 6:18. There is nothing evil in itself of oxen or sheep either, as these are actually animals used in Israelite sacrifice but if they belonged to the Canaanites, they had to be destroyed and not plundered per Josh 6:21.
The irony of course is that per the laws of war prescribed under Deut 20:14, if this coat had belonged to an actual Babylonian, then Achan would not have committed sin:
‘You may, however, take as your booty the women, the children, livestock, and everything else in the town, all its spoil. You may enjoy the spoil of your enemies, which the LORD your God has given you.’
Again, the sin of Achan is cross-referenced and clarified by Duet 20:16-17, the normal laws of war, including plunder, did not apply to the Canaanites:
‘But as for the towns of these peoples that the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance, you must not let anything that breathes remain alive. 17 You shall annihilate them—the Hittites and the Amorites, the Canaanites and the Perizzites, the Hivites and the Jebusites—just as the LORD your God has commanded’
So this is nothing more than Reformist proof-texting at its worse.
Technically it's not 'Reformist', but Loonie John Thiel HASS babble, which is in a class of its own. Nobody in the IMS believes or teaches any of these nutty doctrines.
DeleteRe men women shaving their legs and arm pits, from an article by ‘Asta Astra’, who is a follower of ‘independent Reformists’ of John Thiel and the Historic Adventist Sabbath Society (‘HASS’).
ReplyDeletetp://sermonsandstudies.wordpress.com/2013/11/21/hairy-legs-and-the-babylonish-garment/
Astra’s article says the following against women shaving hair:
‘In the ancient Roman Empire, hair removal was often seen as an identifier of class. The wealthy women would remove their body hair with pumice stones, razors, tweezers and depilatory creams… This meant that women had been won over – or brainwashed as some might say – and it was no longer a question of convincing them if they should shave their underarms in advertisements; now it came down to convincing them that a particular product was the best choice to remove the hair that women didn’t realize until recently was objectionable in the first place.’
No one says a woman MUST shave their legs and arm pits, but it is certainly false to suggest it is a sin to do so. The fact is, shaving body hair is biblical, as an act of purification and good hygiene:
As Num 8:7 makes clear:
‘Thus you shall do to them, to cleanse them: sprinkle the water of purification on them, have them shave their whole body with a razor and wash their clothes, and so cleanse themselves.’
It isn’t just about showing the flesh, because many Middle Eastern women shave all their body hair, even though they wear burkas! It is because bodily hair contributes to bad body odour, and as the Bible attests, shaving body hair is an act of good hygiene.
As to non-Anglo women not shaving their hair who knows – maybe they have poor personal hygiene?
Stephen, most women in sdarm and ims circles actually do shave their legs. They don't even follow strict dress reform. A lot wear knee length skirts and some pants. Most have short sleeves. So your comments about sdarm women in general not shaving is inaccurate. It's only a select few even in my own group who don't. It is personal choice despite what john says, it's not monitored or policed. I created that article on hairy legs to support the view that some say it's worldly. Johns comments re hairy legs were being mocked on Facebook so that prompted me.
DeleteTrue no one says a woman must shave but facts are in the work place and world in general, if you don't remove body hair, you are ridiculed by society. I know this by experience. I'm of Greek background and in my country, most women don't remove the hair so it's normal for me not to but I have been mocked a lot. Read this article about the pressure society puts on women.
http://achristianfeministjourney.blogspot.com.au/2008/03/why-i-dont-shave-my-legs.html
Also, I know many conservative mainstream sda's on Facebook who dress more modestly than members of the sdarm and ims. Not that I'm judging but these are facts.
See this book by Amy McKnight http://www.coveredwithchrist.com/
Linda Kirks website
http://www.remnantraiment.com/subpages/history.htm
Both do full on strict dress reform and are SDA conference members. See their photos here:
http://sabbathsermons.com/2013/03/09/dress-reform-around-the-world/
Couple of good points here.
DeleteFirst, why do any of you Reformist offshoots exist (SDARM, IMS or HASS) if the practices you engage in, including dress reform, are also practiced by members of the 'mainstream' SDA Church?
Moreover, whilst members of the 'mainstream' SDA Church do engage in conservative practices of health and dress reform, these people often do it as a personal choice. Only the Reformists turn them into tests of fellowship - as 'salvation issues.'
You might not make shaving legs a test of fellowship but you do treat other issues of health and dress reform tests of fellowship, despite no biblical commands for that, and despite SOP counsel against just that!
The fact John Thiel even counsels woman to refrain from shaving legs, or your article suggesting Achan committed a sin of fashion, even if most Reformist lay members don't subscribe, offers a great illustration of a Pharisaic mindset over the minute matters of law-keeping. Whilst Reformists spend endless hours over such minor regulatory matters, how many schools, hospitals, orphanages or prison ministries are you all running? Because THAT is the biblical test as to who Jesus says will be the sheep or goats - not hem lines. The Kingdom of God is about more than what we eat or what we wear.
Stephen, I understand where you are coming to some degree but you do have alot of misconceptions about Reform. You've hardly spent anytime in any of the churches to meet all the people and hear them out. There are no reformist offshoots. The SDARM and IMS have been around basically since 1925 and are the Reform. The only group that can some may classify as an offshoot is hass although my perception of an offshoot is an organisation like the Jewish or Catholic church that once held the truth who stepped off the platform and how actual offshoots.
DeleteThe SDARM and IMS are not under any SDA church threat for using the names Adventist or Seventh Day which are copyright unlike other groups in the USA who use those words.
There actually is a misconception in the Ellen White Estate and SDA GC that dress and health are not tests of fellowship. They misconstrue some key points EGW made. I have compiled this article from long ago to address them.
Please read why she said the 'reform dress' (not dress reform in general) and why meat eating were not tests of fellowship. There were specific reasons why she said that and also what she really said.
This is not understood, taught or acknowledged by the SDA church.
The reason why the situation which Achan was referenced was because it was a short garment. The articles I quoted from the internet re shaving highlighted the fact that it was pushed by the advertising and shaving companies because of the changing fashions in the 1910's and 20's. It all goes together.
Here is the article specifying why EGW said not to make dress and diet a test of fellowship. you can find the answers at my website under the categories of Vegetarianism and Dress Reform. You don't need to be in the dark about this but know the answers clearly and where the reform is coming from. These things are not illogical but are biblical and in the sop.
Psalm 119:96 says the commandments are exceeding broad and they are not just the Decalogue but all the principles and statutes in the bible and sop.
http://sabbathsermons.com/2011/05/18/why-ellen-white-said-don%E2%80%99t-make-dress-and-diet-a-test-and-what-she-really-meant/
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DeleteOk Ariadne, good luck and best wishes for you
DeleteAriadne: "There are no reformist offshoots. The SDARM and IMS have been around basically since 1925 and are the Reform."
ReplyDeleteDidn't they split in the 1950s - some 30 years after the SDARM was founded?
As to who split from who, I think it depends on who is telling the story. I believe the SDARM say it was the IMS and the IMS say it was the SDARM. I remind me of a Monty Python skit on the Life of Brian about the Judean People's Front vs the People's Front of Judea.
The IMS were in the right re that split. They are equal churches. Not much difference. Personality squabbles.
ReplyDeleteHey, I just found this, later published in the Adventist Review and Sabbath Herald. Would that be the reason why Peter Lausevic wrote this?
ReplyDelete"A description of Jesus Christ, as it was found in an ancient manuscript, sent by Publius Lentulus, President of Judea, to the Senate of Rome: {ARSH September 3, 1857, p. 139.3}
“There lives at this time in Judea a man of singular character, whose name is Jesus Christ. The barbarians esteem him a prophet, but his followers adore him as the immediate offspring of the immortal God. He is endowed with unparalleled virtue, as to call back the dead from their graves, and to heal every kind of disease with a word or touch. His person is tall and elegantly shaped - his aspect amiable and reverend. His hair flows in those beautiful shades, which no united colors can match - falling into graceful curls below his ears, agreeably crouching on his shoulders, and parting on the crown of the head, like the head-dress of the rest of the Nazarites. His forehead is smooth and large; the cheek without spot, save that of a lovely red; his nose and mouth are formed with exquisite symmetry; his beard is thick and suitable to the hair on his head, reaching a little below his chin and parting in the middle like a fork. His eyes are bright, clear and serene. He rebukes with majesty, counsels with mildness, and invites with the most tender and persuasive language. His whole address, whether in word or deed, being elegant, grave, and strictly characteristic of so great a being. No man has seen him laugh, but the whole world behold him weep frequently; and so persuasive are his tears, that the multitude cannot withhold theirs, from joining in sympathy with him. He is moderate, temperate and wise. In short, whatever this phenomenon may turn out in the end, he seems at present a man of excellent beauty and divine perfections, every way surpassing the children of men.” {ARSH September 3, 1857, p. 139.4}"
And in Early Writings:
"Soon our eyes were drawn to the east, for a small black cloud had appeared, about half as large as a man’s hand, which we all knew was the sign of the Son of man. We all in solemn silence gazed on the cloud as it drew nearer and became lighter, glorious, and still more glorious, till it was a great white cloud. The bottom appeared like fire; a rainbow was over the cloud, while around it were ten thousand angels, singing a most lovely song; and upon it sat the Son of man. His hair was white and curly and lay on His shoulders; and upon His head were many crowns. ... " {EW 15.2}
Again you are a liar. I pity you and see that you certainly want to be lost. Stop misleading people. It's a pity. To the one on this blog who are looking for the truth. Please do not follow this person. They are wicked people!
ReplyDeleteThis site is SO far from the truth it's really amazing. I'm an ex-sdarm and am well acquainted with their beliefs and practices. For a start there are VERY FEW who wear dresses like the ones in your photo named "Women in Reformist-like Garb". You say they have to have long hair yet one lady in your photo has masculine style hair so then are they reformers or are they not???? I'm not for the sdarm but I'm not for false information either. You are stating MANY thing you know little about so maybe you should just get on with the job of being Christ like and you will have no time for all this work of satan.
ReplyDeleteYou're making a lot about the photos. Is there anything in the actual article itself, which is like what really matters, that you disagree with and say is misleading or false?
DeleteThe caption connected with the photo doesn't say this is an exact photo of SDARM women. It merely says 'Reformist-like Garb'. It is clearly something off the internet to give a flavour of conservative-style dress, with the long skirts and long hair. It well could be SDARM women - how do you know what they dress like all over the world? In any event, I agree with Simon that you are making a lot about the photos but don't actually have a complaint about the article itself.
DeleteLost sibling.
ReplyDeleteHere is a true story so read before my post get deleted in a swift fashion.
I once had a brother who meant the world to me, we used to laugh and recall the good days together when we were only little kids him being the older brother watching over me.
Then we grew and drifted apart sooner than expected, believing in the wildest conspiracies like the jews did 911 or that the USA never went on the moon in 69. He was lost but not gone, he still loved us as the happy family we were even if our views were not in accordance. He continued spiralling into every single ideal or faith possible until one day.
Until this day when he met John thiel or one of his followers online... My brother was never returned back to me, hostage of his own mind in a foreign land. He has completely abandoned his family, friends,
love ones. Life has been stripped away from him before his very eyes had he not been so credulous he would still have it free of charge.
The question is who is truly responsible for his demise ? Is it the church and the people who follow it ? Is it the leaders who's greed stands unprecedented ? Or maybe it is the doctrine itself who inexplicitly elevates a single man in Australia to the status of Prophet ?
How can a man stand up for him self and truly reclaim his freedom of thought and critical thinking ?
How can a man liberate himself from the shackles of the minds in order to truly be free ?
How can a man's dignity be restored after it has been torn to shreds and millions of pieces when asked to turn away from his "devious" family ?
How can my mother forgive my brother once and IF he regains his senses for his YEARS of indifference and cold-heartedness
How can my father forgive my brother when he couldnt be bothered to check up on my father laying in the hospital let alone pick up the phone for a single call.
According to my brother he is way too busy with translating sermons for the almighty Mr Thiel and preparing Sabbath while I'm trying to take care of both my parents with a full time job... He just stands there unemployed claiming the benefits my parents and I have contributed for, and all this for what ?? Filling a word press html page only for a handful of naive and fragile minds ? Is this worth leaving a loving family that's fighting to set you free ?
What is left to be done for an unbeliever like me ? Pray that my brother returns to me ? To which God ? Hanuman ? Vishnu ? Jupiter ?
I am but a lost soul searching for answers in this world where minds are forever sealed beyond contempt.
Regards
Hi Anonymous. I don't usually delete posts (sometimes it just takes me a while to post them up). The tale you tell is very sad.
DeleteWhat was most telling was your statement: 'According to my brother he is way too busy with translating sermons for the almighty Mr Thiel and preparing Sabbath while I'm trying to take care of both my parents with a full time job...'
Jesus noted this exact type of situation in Mark 7, when Pharisees used to donate money to the Temple in order to avoid the obligation to care for one's parents. Pretty much the exact situation you are experiencing now.
As to an "unbeliever" maybe you believe more than your brother? Doesn't the Bible say it is the doers of the law not the hearers of it that matter?
As for blaming God, that is a really difficult question. I can only talk from personal experience, that it is really challenging not to blame Him for other's behaviour.